‘What I like’ vs. ‘what is right’…
Suppose you don’t like fluorescent colours. You also don’t like to stay at home during the holidays. And you don’t like to get wet in the rain.
Your dislikes are because you like white coloured clothes. You prefer to spend time with your friends during the holidays. And wherever it rains, you prefer to be at the place where you are. This means if you are at home, you choose to stay at home, and if you are at the office, you prefer to be there till the rain stops.
Obviously, you know your personal likes. But, as you have your personal likings, every other individual also has their personal likes. And these likes may be different than your personal likes and choices. When we don’t consider the personal choices of every individual to be obvious and keep on insisting that our own choice is ‘the right’ choice, then our conversations in any relationship start to become a little tensed.
What I want to tell you all is that there is a difference between ‘what I like’ and ‘what is right’.
You can say that you don’t like fluorescent colours, but when you say that fluorescent colours are ‘wrong’, you start experiencing stress. You can say that I like to spend the holidays with friends rather than being alone at home. When you say that being at home during the holidays is ‘wrong’, then you might face stress and tension in your conversation.
If you don’t realize that you are confused between what you like and what is right, and hence, you consider what you like is the right thing, then you may find that some relationships have become stressful to you. Most often, the result will be unpleasant and something that you don’t desire because every individual has their personal likings.
If you don’t like fluorescent colour and you are in conversation with a person who likes that colour, then you start to think that the person is wrong. But, without using the criteria of right or wrong if we use the criteria of likes and dislikes, then our thoughts will be sorted. We will realize that we have been considering what we like as what is right but what I like and what is right are two different things.
If you just take 10 minutes to think, you will realize that what you were considering wrong in your relationships may have been your dislikes and not wrong.
Just think for 10 minutes, you will definitely see the difference.