Simplifying Relationships: Pre-Spouse Test

He is not at all my type! She is not of my kind! We must have heard such expressions many times while entering a relationship or answering why we do not want to enter into a relationship. What exactly is our type? Come on, let’s learn a knack that may sound funny, but its effects are great! It’s called the Pre-Spouse test!

Just ask yourself one question before getting into a relationship- do I wish my child to be like my would-be spouse? Because it makes a real picture clear in front of you in a couple of seconds, why? Because maybe if we are going to enter into a serious relationship, then in two or three months, we might get to know some qualities of our partner with whom we are planning to share our future. And in the long run, we are not going to like those qualities. Our focus is on the present, which means that we don’t get too bothered about the qualities that we don’t like, we focus on the qualities that we like. But as soon as we start thinking about whether we would like our child to be like our would-be spouse, then our whole focus shifts to how good our relationship will be after marriage. If we want our children to be like our would-be spouse, it means we like those characteristics and we wish to have a person with those characteristics in our life. We wish that a person of that nature should be our spouse.

Once you enter into a relationship, I want your married life to be full of happiness, so definitely adopt this thinking. This will be helpful for you and your partner as well.