Simplifying Relationships: Enriching Relationships

Today’s topic will definitely help each of us have a deeper understanding of relationships. Every individual has a hidden desire- my close friends, my relatives, and anyone who knows me should think about me, and whenever they think about me, to the possible extent, it should only be good. Maybe because of this desire, whenever a relative points out the mistakes of someone in front of other relatives, that person feels worse about the fact that the mistakes were pointed out in front of everyone than feeling bad about the act of pointing out mistakes! Sometimes even the person whose mistakes were pointed out also knows in their heart that they made mistakes, but they find the act of pointing out the mistakes in front of everyone to be insulting! Because they have a desire that their relatives should think good about them, and if someone points out their mistakes, they fear that the efforts they have taken to date to make the relatives think good about them will go to waste. This is true for all relationships. These relationships can be that of vendor and customer, employee and boss, two brothers, or guest and host.

Please mark my words whenever you want to tell anyone about their mistakes, make sure to tell them when they are alone, and whenever you want to praise anyone, then do that in front of everyone. If you are in a group of people and you are aware of someone’s mistake, then do not mention the mistake when everyone is around; rather, show some patience until you are able to meet the concerned person alone to point out their mistake. Whereas in a similar situation but instead of a mistake, if you want to praise someone from that group, then do so in front of the entire group. When you point out the mistake when you are alone with the person, they will not take the entire scenario as an offense; rather, they will think that – if a person is pointing out the mistake, that means they are my well-wisher and want me to improve on a particular aspect; otherwise they would not have pointed out the mistake! This, in turn, helps strengthen the relationship rather than damage it. And when you praise someone in front of the entire group, this act, in turn, helps one to achieve their desire that everyone around them should think good about them and with your help the person was able to fulfill their desire and this is definitely going to add onto sweetness in any relation.

Try to point out someone’s mistakes when you are alone, and try to praise someone when you are in front of many, and see how your relationship with the person strengthens!