Primary Mode for Parenting: Let’s Explore!.

  When we shift our own house or office from one area to another, whether that area is another city or another place in the same city, if we shift home or office to any other place, then we give time to ourselves to mingle with that new area. We keep in mind that this is a new area, and people around here are different. If the people in the neighbourhood are different, then to mingle with them, we should know how they are! Not only this, but when we leave our own service and start our own business, then we know that there is a lot of difference between the psychology of service and the psychology of business, both are not the same. We should learn the psychology of business, and that is going to take time. How to do business slowly can be taught by taking guidance, but it is going to take time. Knowing this, we give ourselves time. Not only that, but whenever there is an arranged marriage, even after marriage, both husband and wife are ready to give time to get to know each other. They know that they are different from each other, and the more they know each other, the better their married life is going to be. We all know this but parenting is the only thing where we know everything, we become a parent, and then we feel ‘I know everything’! We feel that we know the children, what is good for them, and what is wrong for them. We are in a position to tell them how to behave and what to do, what not to behave and what not to do, what they should do at a particular time, or what they should not do at a particular time! All of a sudden we have all the knowledge of the parenting area. We don’t even think that this area is new, and thus, we should give ourselves time.

But whenever it comes to parenting, we should remember one fact. The day our child was born is the day we became a parent. What this means is that to date, we were living as a person, we have the experience of being this person for 25, 28, or 30 years, but after that, when the child is born, we feel that we also have the experience of being a parent for 25, 28, or 30 years! If the child is one year old, then the mother will also be one year old; before that, she was a girl, not a mother. The father will also be one year old when the child will be one year old; before that, he was a man and not a father. The experience of 30 years was not that of the father; it was the experience of the man, and this fact must be kept in our mind.

So, whenever we come to parenting mode, then we will feel like exploring this mode; we will treat the child with this in mind- ‘you are new, I am also new, let’s learn what is good for you, let’s learn what is good for me’. And the result of this will be that I will be able to become a good parent, and you will be able to become a good child. To have this harmony, let’s explore!’

If you learn parenting in this ‘let’s explore’ mode, you will definitely observe better outcomes of parenting. Try this and then tell me!