Five Colors Technique: an effective way to change your nature

Do you want to change a part of your nature? Have you been struggling in doing so?

The critical step in changing our nature is understanding what does ‘nature of a person’ means.

The foundation of human behavioral science tells that when a person repeatedly gives instructions in a specific sequence to their mind, those instructions’ expression becomes the person’s nature. And when the person practices their nature constantly, it becomes unalterable.

We will learn the ‘five colors technique’, which works on refining our responses and helps us change our nature. Anytime you are about to react, tell your mind that you haven’t tried other colors. Ask yourself that I always respond in one color; what other four colors can I try this time?

Let me elaborate. Imagine that you are a mother of a school-going boy, and your son has not finished his tiffin yet again. Now usually, when you encounter such a situation, you yell at your son. And after some time passes, you cool down and ask your son about not finishing his tiffin. You want to change this pattern of responding to improve your relationship with your son.

When you use the ‘five colors technique’, you may do the following.

Instead of using the color that you always use (that is, yelling at the son), you can try-

1. asking if the food was not cooked properly and that is why he did not eat? (color 2)
2. asking directly for a reason behind his actions. (color 3)
3. not saying anything and eating the food at your mealtime. (color 4)
4. asking your son for his preferences before preparing meals henceforth. (color 5)

Giving yourself four more options to respond in a certain situation will help in managing your stress and anger.