Anger Management Technique

We all must have experienced that sometimes during our regular conversations, the other person suddenly gets angry and then he says something in that anger that hurts us. The intensity of that feeling of hurt is so immense that it spoils our relationship with that person. We start avoiding that person or sometimes we stop talking to him completely because we got hurt by what he said when he was angry. Sometime later, we come to know that he didn’t mean to say those words to us; it happened only because of a misunderstanding. But still, the ‘non-communication’ continues, as we are not ready to give up on that incident as we were hurt.

Now, imagine what will you feel if you hurt someone because of something that you said when you were angry and that person stopped talking to you. You value your relationship with this person a lot! So naturally, if this person stops talking to you, you will regret getting angry. But this regret won’t amend your relationship with this person. That relationship will never be the same. To avoid such situations in our daily lives, I am going to teach you a very simple technique called, ‘anger management.’

During any conversation, if you feel that you are getting angry in that heat of the moment, then tell your mind, “I know that I am getting angry. But, I am going to prepare a lot for this anger for the next 24 hours and then I am going to be angry with that person. I am not going to get angry at this moment.” After 24 hours, you will realize that the cause of your anger was not worth getting angry about and it certainly was not worth having a bad effect on your relationship. But in that heat of the moment, you can get angry because of the same cause.

Remember that anger is always a reaction to the situation and not a response. Every time you face such situations, wait for 24 hours instead of reacting immediately. After 24 hours, ask your mind a question whether an angry reaction was really necessary at that time. You will get a negative response 99% of the time.