Am I ‘being right’ or ‘being matured’?

The topic of today’s blog originated during a meeting I had regarding ‘Healing through Pancha Mahabhutas’. Let me tell you about this treatment before going further. I give this treatment so that seekers can heal from mental and physical diseases and lead a healthy and comfortable life. ‘Healing through Pancha Mahabhutas’ is neither learnable nor teachable. This treatment is often called ‘Healing through Water’ because water is available everywhere, and therefore it is easy for seekers to take healing from the available resources. But I can also give healing to seekers through tea, coffee, soup, or even dal.

Now, let me tell you about the meeting. A gentleman came to me to know more about ‘Healing through Pancha Mahabhutas’. During the meeting, he decided to take healing and took up my suggestion of taking healing on a daily basis. During the meeting, we were drinking tea, and I asked him if it was okay to give him that day’s healing through tea. He was very surprised after hearing my question and said, “I thought you give healing through water! Can healing be given through tea as well?” I explained that I need a medium to give healing, whether it is water, tea, or coffee, if there is a medium, healing can be given. This meeting made me think about a question: have we become too attached to mediums in our life? In the above event, healing was the most important thing of all, and even the gentleman knew this.

I remember another scenario. A sister and her younger brother had a big fight. They were not talking to each other for four months. As they were my cousins, during a family gathering, we all came to know about their fight. And everyone asked them why they were not talking. Then, they told us the reason that started the fight. The sister had a discipline that everyone from their home must use the toothpaste by pressing the lower end of the toothpaste tube. One day, she saw that her brother was using the toothpaste by pressing the tube in the middle. And they got into a fight which grew so much that they stopped talking to each other altogether. The question is, between toothpaste and relationship, is toothpaste more important than the relationship? Or, aren’t we able to choose which is the best option for us- ‘being right’ or ‘being matured’? Eventually, in six months, the brother will learn to use the toothpaste by pressing the tube from the lower end, but during those six months, his thoughts will make him think about thoughts of hatred for his sister.

Between ‘being right’ and ‘being matured’, we should choose the option of ‘being matured’ most of the time. This is not just about toothpaste. I will give you another example. A wife may think that her husband should like bitter gourd, while the husband tells the wife that he does not like bitter gourd and likes potatoes. But if the wife insists that her husband should like bitter gourd and cooks bitter gourd for six months, the husband may start to like the bitter gourd, but he won’t like his wife anymore.

What do we get out of this? Should we focus on bitter gourd over relations or on relations over bitter gourd? Are we getting attached to the medium? Are we choosing ‘being right’ and spoiling the relationship? Let’s analyze this today! Let’s go to the past, learn and come into the present, and decide that from today I am going to choose ‘being matured’ over ‘being right’.